About Me
MY STORY
A Journey From Survival To Self-Worth
My story is one of resilience, survival, and ultimately, self-discovery. But it wasn’t always this way. For a long time, I believed the narratives that others imposed on me—narratives that told me I was unworthy, broken, and powerless. It took years of heartache and healing to break free from those limiting beliefs, and now, my mission is to help you do the same.
When I was 16, I left home after being molested by a family friend. I learned to carry the weight of shame and guilt that was never mine to bear, internalizing those feelings and spending much of my life believing that I was the problem—that I was somehow less than everyone else. Self disapproval and societal judgments became my inner voice, one that would influence me well into adulthood.
First Turning Point - Toxic Relationship Cycles
It wasn’t until later in life that I had a moment of clarity: I was living, but I wasn’t alive. My days were consumed by simply surviving, and I had no idea what it meant to be me. I had become numb, stuck in a cycle of self-blame, people-pleasing, and destructive relationships. This cycle continued into multiple marriages, where I faced a painful realization
I was attracting completely toxic relationship patterns
This forced me to confront my own codependency. The dynamic mirrored the toxic patterns of my childhood, but this time, I knew something had to change. I couldn’t keep living someone else’s version of my life.
I embarked on a self-care journey entering Mrs Africa Pageant and registering for a psychology degree. I was crowned Mrs. Africa Continental 2017 and graduated Cum Laude with a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology.
Another Turning Point - Widowed At 38
Then, in 2019, my world was shattered once again. After my own near-death experience during childbirth, I was suddenly widowed only months later. The grief of losing my husband combined with the struggle of being a single mother to my older boys and an infant, being the breadwinner, the nurturer, the employer and the survivor made normal functioning extremely difficult by anyone’s measure.
There were times that I made incredibly desperate decisions – that ended up causing me to hate myself more than I loved my own children.
That’s when I made the most important decision of my life: to change how I saw myself.
For years, I had believed what others thought of me—whether it was rejection or societal expectations—but then I discovered a profound truth: what other people think of me is none of my business. The only opinion that truly mattered was my own. The only power that existed over me…was me.
This realization sparked my journey toward reclaiming my self-worth and breaking free from the limiting beliefs that had held me captive for so long.
A Word On Resilience
In my early 40s, I received a diagnosis that finally helped me make sense of what I had been living with for so long. I was diagnosed with ADHD, PTSD, Borderline Personality Disorder, Anxiety, and Depression. For most of my life, I had felt “crazy,” misunderstood, and overwhelmed, never realizing what was truly happening inside my mind. This diagnosis didn’t define me, but it gave me the tools to understand myself better. It also gave me resilience—resilience that I now use to help others on their own journey toward healing and empowerment.
WHY WORK WITH ME
It’s time to invest in yourself
Through countless hours of academic research, personal
development, and objective reflection, I have crafted a process—a process that
helped me understand how we develop these survival mechanisms, how they shape
our identity, and, most importantly, how we can change them. This journey isn’t
just about “feeling better”; it’s about understanding yourself on the deepest
level, about shifting your mindset and breaking free from the chains of your
past.
But here’s the thing—this journey is hard.
It involves diving deep into your own mind, which
can be overwhelming and difficult to navigate alone. That’s why I’m here. I’ve
been through the darkness, and I know what it feels like. More importantly, I
know how to guide you through it. I’ve streamlined the process so that you
don’t have to spend years failing or reliving heartache to find your way out.
Together, we can fast-track your journey to self-worth, mental and emotional
stability, and healthier relationships.
My coaching approach is rooted in empathy, intuition, and scientific frameworks.
I’ve lived the pain, the heartache, and the confusion that comes with trying to navigate life without a clear sense of self.
My mission is to help you break free from the same patterns and help you see yourself through a new lens—a lens of worth, value, and authenticity. Together, we will uncover the limiting beliefs that are holding you back and transform them so that you can live the life you truly deserve.
If you’re tired of living in survival mode—if you’re ready to stop existing and start truly living—I’m here to guide you through the process.
You don’t have to walk this path alone.
"Of all the roads you could ever travel on, I think the one back to finding yourself is the most magical."
LET'S TAKE THE NEXT STEP
I invite you to begin your journey today. You deserve to experience life fully—to find clarity, confidence, and genuine connection. Together, we’ll navigate the road to healing, self-worth, and personal freedom. You’ve been in survival mode long enough; now it’s time to thrive.